At church this past Sunday, one of the topics at hand was prayer. Okay, it was pretty much the main topic at hand, but there was a subtext to this about prayer in marriage.
I am a firm believer that marriage takes two people and puts them together in life and in ministry. As a result, it only makes sense that people should pray together in a married couple.
I say makes sense. I am not saying we do it.
The thing is, as the pastor says and as I know full well, is that the devil takes any opportunity he can get to ruin marriages, especially Godly, Christ centered marriages. It may sound paranoid, but it is one of the only explanations for how much divorce and heartache there is in the world today.
We are selfish people and we can be quite hurtful and disobedient. We are flawed. Our relationship with Jesus helps to make us whole. But, it takes Him and work on our part to minister effectively.
In marriages, I think it is easier and yet more complicated. There are two people to make mistakes. And it is often easier to be hurtful and disobedient to people we are closest to, like our spouses.
That is where prayer comes in. That is where God comes in.
When we spend time in God’s word and praying as a couple, we are inviting Jesus in, which helps to crowd the devil out. Or at least that is how it seems.
Patrick and I have been attempting (attempting is a key word here) to do regular devotions together since we got married. We have our good times and our bad. I actually miss it when we don’t do our devotions together. These times are the ones where we can focus on each other and God and the relationship between the three of us.
But prayer is something we have generally been less focused on. We say grace before meals, yes. And we have our own individual prayer lives. But, for whatever reason (and foolish reason at that), we haven’t really been big on praying together except when something big comes up.
The more we thought about it after the message on prayer from Sunday and such, the more we both agreed that this is something we need to do more. The best way to stay in touch with God and stay unified is to pray… Together… On a regular basis.
So, that is our new mission. Thankfully, God will encourage it. Unfortunately, we both know external pressures will make us want to stop in some ways. But, I think that is an even better reason to keep praying.
We know a few people who are what some people may call prayer warriors. They are super intense with praying and pray for everything and everyone. And they love it. I want to have that. One of them, a lady that I consider one of my church grandparents says that she just sees it as a part of her day. She spends time with her husband and friends and children, so why not God. She says the more she prays, the more she enjoys it.
I know that is how I should feel. And how I want to feel. I just need to remember to pray and really talk to God, not just go through my “shopping list.”
I need to remember this quote from the Bible that my “other father” told my best friends and I shortly before he died…
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. -1 Thessalonians 16-18.
We will one day be parents and grandparents. We want to instill these values in our children and raise them in Christ. The best way to do this is to be Christ centered from day one. Bringing more prayer into our marriage is an important part of this.