The post I was thinking about writing ties in well with the Daily Post daily prompt from a couple days ago, “Exhale,” which asks you to tell about a time when you felt like everything was going wrong and then suddenly you knew it was going to be alright.
In this case, I did know in my head it was going to be alright, at least in theory before this, but still, it fits.
As those of you who read this blog may have noticed, I have been struggling a lot with feeling a part of the community at church. I’m not a naturally outgoing person and I don’t fit a lot of the typical gender roles of women my age in the church (maybe this isn’t really true, but it is how I feel sometimes). I have been kind of bothered by the fact that we have been here for a year and things are still challenging socially for me when not at work (my fellow residents/physics folks are geekily delightful) or with the Child and her husband (again, thank goodness for them). I knew it would take time and I felt like I was gaining ground until the summer hit and our D-group (small group) dissolved for the formation of new groups this fall.
Despite that, I have tried (prayed really hard and tried to be optimistic… er… listened to Patrick’s optimism) to trust that we would make more friends and have real friendships and community. And tried to trust that this takes time and that really a year, especially with how much we have been away/working, isn’t that long. And tried to trust that the thoughts in my head that I was hopeless on this end and that things could never be as good as we had with our small group on the Rock were not true.
As a human. Especially as a human who likes to control things, but doesn’t like groups of people, this has been a challenge. And although I was trying to leave it all to God and stop putting pressure on myself (and others), I felt very discouraged and kind of down about the whole thing.
Tonight was our first meeting with our new Discipleship group (D-group). We are definitely the only people that nobody really knows. And I am totally Patrick’s wife to most of them. That being said, we shared a meal with a group of people from a diverse number of backgrounds. Single, married, some with teens and others with an infant. Some go way back, others have known eachother for a year or two.
It was nice. It was nice to be with people in a group that wasn’t work related.
The first meeting is mainly about setting group ground rules and getting to know one another and praying around what God is going to do for the year. It was good.
It seems like a good group of people and I think we will have good discussions.
It seems silly, but even just meeting up for the first time and starting to plan for year ahead and chatting a bit made me feel better. Even though I was terrified to go initially.
It will be okay. We will get to know more people and I will fit in.
Tonight was just the reminder I needed.